Zini, me & life in general

Surprisingly, this was the question asked to me by my very close friend L recently and it stumped me!!! Though I answered her, saying that I like to hang out with the “Sharif” people like her whom I can spoil and make them “Bigda hua” like me….Which is partly true also, I have managed to turn my good-girl friends a bit bigda hua ๐Ÿ˜‰ …

Generally I am friendly with everybody i meet and can even talk to all kind of ย and all aged people. ย In school and college i was friendly with lots of people. But lately I have realized that i don’t enjoy talking to everyone the way i used to, though i manage a polite conversation in such a situation, after a point i excuse myself.

But the question really got me thinking…So really what kind of people I like to hang out with? How do i click with my friends? So rather than thinking about the qualities, i thought about my friends…

My hubby who was originally my friend (well still he is my friend ๐Ÿ™‚ )…The most striking thing about him (in my view) is his honesty…He can call a spade a spade and speak his mind no matter with whom he is talking to. He doesn’t say things for his personal gain, he says it because that is what he thinks….He is also very open and doesn’t believe in hiding anything. I also enjoy his company because when we are together we have fun. We can have interesting discussions with each other and enjoy each other’s company. Also his feet are firmly on ground (well most of the times)….He supports me and understands me; helps me and motivates me..

Then my friend L, who asked me this question…She is one gem of a person. She is a kind of friend everybody would wish for. She is loyal, will support you no matter what, will gently tell you if you make a mistake but will do so in private, will be there for you not matter what and will listen to all your rants at any time of day/night..Again she is painfully honest and very very kind to everyone around her. She can be crazy at times, she once made me stop my scooty at green signal so that she can give money to theย beggarย at the traffic light!!! (well, craziness is a side effect of being my friend ๐Ÿ˜‰ ). She never used to eat out, and with me she started eating out every day, so we would gorge on some pani-puris, daabeli, vada-pao and then only go home!!!

My friend from school, N comes across as a very quiet person. She won’t talk with everybody, some may even find her snooty!!! But we enjoy together. I remember once my brother was admitted to hospital right next to her home. So i would go at her home and we would study together and then talk and play. My mom didn’t have to worry about me. Even after we went to different colleges, we continued to meet. I sometimes attended her classes and she would attend my college festival!!! She too is one of those who speaks their mind and she has many a times whacked some much needed sense in my head. My other friends from school P and P are also one of those who speak their mind. With my absent mindedness i would forget a journal or a book at home but they reminded me to carry it. Sometimes they would even help in finishing my journal when i would have forgotten to complete it!! So it was not a very uncommon site when i was seen writing on a page of my journal and P was seen drawing a diagram on the opposite page!!!

Then my friend M from college again is so much like L. She would stretch for friends and support you no matter what. Both of us, after spending the study vacation like holidays, wouldย panicย just before the exams and would study together. So she would shift base to my home and we would end up studying day and night. We were likeย partnersย in crime, where crimes ranged from gluttony(expected with me involved!!) to playing pranks, from bunking classes to gossiping and from pulling random legs to talking in the class…

One more close friend from college is H. She is one of the coolest people, who championed studies and fashion with equal ease. We would ask her questions ranging from studies to dresses , ย and she would answer all of them with equal ease!!! and my firm belief is that she would have done equally well (or may be better) had she chosen fashion designing as a career…She was one of those sane voiceย among the madness. Who would draw a time table for M and me so that we study during study leaves, would shout at us for wasting time…And would take out important questions from previous years papers and share them with us, so that we can do well in exams!!!

So, i realized that all my friends are very honest (sometimes painfully honest) with me, they support me in my hour of need and care for me!!! We have fun when we talk and i can talk about anything with them!!! I really feel very lucky to have these amazing people as my friends!!


Comments on: "So Who do you like to hang out with?!?!" (22)

  1. Touch wood…you are so blessed to have such a nice bunch of friends around you ๐Ÿ™‚ …I am not in touch with any of my college friends barring one or two ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

  2. Nice post, ZM, I think about this a lot too. I expect honesty and integrity in my friendships too, someone who I can trust and believe me that is rare to find off late. Of course, if you can laugh together or at each other, that’s good too. And for me, my husband top’s the list too.

  3. H for honest for you! ๐Ÿ˜€

    H for humourous ! I guess I would say the people who keep me amused or keep cracking jokes… are teh ones I best hang out with ! ๐Ÿ™‚ Great Sense of humour will always have me sticking around !

    Geez…the spell check really confuses me what is the correct spelling !

  4. it is always a blessing to have friends like the ones you have. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Hehe, I was just about to say the common thing among all your friends but you mentioned it by the end, from that I can easily say you must be brutally honest too ;). Is it?

    • Well, i won’t call myself brutally honest ๐Ÿ™‚ I said naa, i am a bit bigdi hui ๐Ÿ˜‰
      But i don’t do anything that i feel is wrong. And with friends i am pretty much honest, anyways i can’t lie to them, they know me too well and will catch my lie in a minute!!!

  6. You have spoken my mind! The common thing about my closest friends is that they are very open and honest. There are times when we disagree on matters but I respect their honesty. I would rather stay with people who are transparent and speak thier mind than someone who would say things to please me and not mean them. It was wonderful to read about your friends. Great post!

    • Exactly!!! “I would rather stay with people who are transparent and speak thier mind than someone who would say things to please me and not mean them.” Loved this ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thanks Sonali ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. I like to be in the presence of people who have a funny bone, even though I may not know them ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜›

    They always have some or the other tales which end up with rib tickling laughter ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

    • I too enjoy with people with funny bone ๐Ÿ™‚
      But i realized that i like it when friends are upfront and honest with me ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. reminds me of ‘kyonki har ek friend zaroori hota hai!’ ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Hey!I am so impressed!And I love the name “techie2mom”,suits you perfectly.Nice thoughts and a very important(for me)question.

  10. Very nice post and like you said its wonderful to have friends around.

  11. Beautiful post dear.. Really friends do matter a lot in life.. And the best ones of them are those who promise to be in your life ..no matter what life brings !!!

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