All my life lot of people have described me as bold or brave.. Which actually isn’t completely true.
As a child I was completely afraid of dark. It was so bad that I won’t go to bathroom alone, especially at my grandmother’s place which was situated by a river and bathroom was a little away from the drawing room. And then one day fed up by my fear, my mama turned off each and every light of the home and dropped me at the bathroom asked me to come back on my own and left!! I managed to come back alright 😉 and since then I somehow am not that afraid of dark 🙂
I am also a scaredy cat when it comes to watching horror and similarly scary movies. I generally avoid watching them. On the rare occasions I ended up watching them, I couldn’t sleep well for few days!! Even the funny Ramsay movies could do that to me, not to mention Friday the 13th and the evil. Oh I even got scared by watching Bhul Bhulaiya and The glass house, not exactly horror movies!!
But still people called me brave!! They said so because of my ability to stand up to anybody and speak my mind. I looked like someone who won’t take it lying down. In spite my general tendency of pleasing people, I voiced my opinion and spoke exactly what I thought for the things that really mattered to me. I also stood up for friends, which must have given the impression. I also appreciate this quality in other people. That explains why I was attracted to my husband. Some incidences at work place further bolstered this image.. I remember an office function for families where my super boss on meeting my parents for the first time told them that your daughter is very brave!!
But I want to tell that this is not exactly true!! There are other fears that I have apart from the ridiculous fears of dark and horror movies. I fear for my daughter’s safety. Every time she steps out of the house to go to school or to play, i have this little nagging fear in my heart. I know it is ridiculous!! She has to go out and win the world.. But isn’t it a bad bad world out there, especially this part of the world? You hear everyday about children getting abused and harmed. If a mother going to ATM in a crowded market at 8 pm with her child can be looted inside the ATM by showing gun to her child then how can I feel safe taking my daughter to the nearby park in same neighbourhood at 8 pm? If a friend can be looted of her precious chain in front of the society gate, how would I be able let my precious jewel go out alone? And all this in the so called safe area!! Does this mean that I have to restrict her (and mine) freedom too? Is stepping out without a car after dark a complete no-no for us now? Won’t my daughter know the joy of freedom the way I’ve known it? Won’t she get to ride that scooty and hang out with friends without worrying about time? Won’t she become independent, strong and brave, just the way I want her to be?
I know it’s too early to worry about. But I hope and pray my fears turn out to be false. I hope she truly becomes a brave person, someone who won’t cower in the face of adversity but would go out and fight it, however big or small it may be.
I am missing Ahmedabad today…
Disclaimer: don’t read if you are grossed out by reading about potty. Though let me tell you it’s hilarious.. Aah well, things we do for the blogathon 😉
This is what happened when Zini learnt the concept of friendship:
Mumma aap mere friend ho (mummy you are my friend)..
Roti Bhakhari ki friend hai (Roti is friend of bhakhari – both are flatbreads)..
Roti Pronthi ki bhi friend hai (Roti is friend of Paratha – again flatbreads)
Bhakhari aur pronthi friends hai kya?
And the most hiliarious of them all is : Potty Su su ki friend hai!!
We went to Zini’s doc. We tell him that she seems to be having some gas problem as she has been burping a lot..
Zini immediately corrected me – dakar ko gas mat bolo (don’t call burp as gas), gas to piche se aati hai!!
Everybody including doctor almost fell of the chair..
Zini after doing her potty:
Yeh potty cake ke jaise ban gayee, chalo iski photo khinche..
Perils of food blogging!!!
We were coming back from Ludhiana in car and saw a cow on the road with a wagging tail.
Excited Zini shouted: dekho cow poonch se bye-bye kar rahi hai (The cow is saying bye using her tail)!!
Are you a new mom or an experienced mom? Or may be an expecting mom or planning to conceive? I would say read this book – bringing up Vasu by Parul Sharma!!
It is fun and totally true!! It has everything, a super worried first time mom who dreams of becoming a super mom, a harried dad, a colicky baby, an entertaining grandmother, vanishing nannies, an irritating neighbour, a competitive friend, a few real friends, fashionable names, entertaining letters written by mom to the baby and a happy ending!! Oh wait!! It also has some bollywood tadka!! This book is completely fun!!
When I read it, I revisit the good (?!) old days of Zini’s first year!! The days when I would jump at any noise during Zini’s nap time, when she would become all colicky through night and sleep through day, when I ate with Zini on my lap, when I worried about her school admission, all of it!! And all these is written in the funniest possible way!! So if you have raised a baby, you would feel that it’s your story!!
This book gives a complete insight in what’s going on in the new mom’s mind!! And anybody who wants to understand a new mom, must read this!! And the best thing about the book is that you can re-read it!! It remains equally funny every time you read it!!
You can see RM’s thoughts on this book here, I got the book after reading her review 🙂 .
“Please let me sleep”
“No, it’s time to wake up”
“Oh, but I still want to sleep”
“No, Let’s go to the drawing room”
“Please let me sleep for some more time”
It’s Zini who said “Wake up” and it was me who wanted to sleep (but couldn’t)!!!
Read part 1, part 2 and part 3 of this work in progress post here…
-Potty, its colour and its quantity is discussed with great enthusiasm!!
– you try to sneak in veggies( & milk) in everything you cook!!
– All your pens go missing mysteriously, you have at least once used crayon to write..
– You wonder how teachers manage so many little ones, while you go mad with only one around.
– You are in awe of teachers that manage to make little children dance and perform in sync!!
– Homework and project work re-enter your life.
– Your house is full of lots and lots of tiny cloths..
– You have cried at least once with pride!!
– You have cried at least once with exasperation!!
– You feel that you haven’t talked on phone without interruption since ages!!
– You are anxious before you go to watch a movie or travel!!
– You wish that you had somebody who can give answer to all the “whys” thrown at you..
We had Zini’s best friend P, from school over at our home!!
She had behaved so nicely during her winter vacation that her mom agreed to her wish of visiting Zini!!
Naah!! I am joking.. Just like Zini the girl was going bonkers at home, hence her mom decided to bring her over so that the girls can fraternize while we at least could catch our breath!!
Yesterday I received a call from R (P’s mother) andshe asked me if we were equally desperate for some peace… And as such was the case, we fixed the play date for today..
Zini was all excited and declared that she would make a cake for her friend… So we baked an orange chiffon cake yesterday. And today converted it to smiley cake using cream 🙂
We also made french fries and methi na muthiya.. (yeah, i had to give food update 😉 )
Zini went to sleep talking about P and woke up asking when would she come.. Zini’s whole morning was spent waiting for P…
And when P came it was an Awww moment!! Both girls hugged and held hands and Zini led P to her treasure trove of toys…She even granted P an entry in her home (a tent)!! Even we are not allowed in her home 🙄
We took them down in the park, they sang, they ran, they played, they laughed and they cried!! That’s when we decided to bring them back to home and bribe them with the smiley cake!!
Zini’s other friend J and her mom too came home and we had cake!! And then the kids had chocolates brought by R. And they went back to the serious business of playing!!
It’s fun we have our favorite people around no matter what age we are!! And then all days become fun days!!